Mr. Locario's Sex, Dating and Relationship Advice: Do men like "The Chase"

The answer to this is yes and no. When some men pursue women they like for it not to be too easy but at the same time they don’t want it to be too difficult. In general most men like the chase when it seems like there may be a chance that they can catch whatever they are chasing but what they don’t like is to chase a woman that doesn’t want to or acts like she doesn’t want to be caught.

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When a man is pursing a woman, he likes to know that even though he hasn’t got her yet that he might be on his way to getting her. So for example a guy might be calling a girl and then she doesn’t call him back right away. He calls her again then they set up a date. They are flirting a lot on the date he drops her back at her place, they make out in front of her door step but instead of inviting him in she tells him she had a good time and she wants to see him again and he leaves. Most men wouldn’t mind chasing this girl because she is showing some sort of interest. This is when most men like the chase.

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Now lets say for example a guy goes out with a girl and she is being very distant on a the date. She isn’t really flirting with him that much and then he drops her by her door step. She shakes his hand, she goes in her house and he goes home. She calls him the next day to say she had a great time on the date. He is shocked by her calling because he probably didn’t think the date went so well. Even though he didn’t have that great of a time on the first date he calls her back to set up another date because she called and said she had a great time on the first. He keeps calling her but she keeps giving him the run around. When he finally gets in contact with her they set up a date but then she cancels on the last minute. This is the part of the chase that most men don’t like.

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In the first example the woman that the guy is dating is playing hard to get but not too hard to get. She lets the guy know that she likes him but at the same time sets up a dynamic that lets the guy know that she might want to take it slow. He knows that there is a chance that he might get with her in the future. In the second example the woman is being confusing and flakey. This woman is being distant on the date and shakes the guys hand. There is no goodbye hug or kiss. Most men look at being physical as a sign that you like him so if there is no flirting or touching of any kind then he is going to assume you don’t like him. The guy thinks she’s not into him but then she calls and says that she had a great time. This is confusing to the guy. Then he thinks ‘hey I guess she does like me.’ Then when he tries to set up a date she is being flakey by giving him the run around and canceling their dates.

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The funny thing is most women think that the woman in the second example is what most men want. They think that men like to keep calling them and that they should wait until whenever to get back to a guy and that he should keep pursing her anyway. What would be his motivation to keep pursing you? The woman in the first example knows how to play the game. She knows that in order to keep the man interested you have to show him that you are also interested. You have to show some sign that you are interested in him. She is giving him a reason for him to want to continue pursing her. You also have to be somewhat consistent even when you’re playing hard to get. The woman in the second example was acting like she wasn’t interested on the date then she called and said she had a good time then they set up a time to meet again and then she canceled her date. She is all over the place. Some men actually like this type of girl. The type of guys that might like this type of girl in the second example are the type of guys that have too much time on their hands and don’t really have anything going on for themselves. A man that has things going for him doesn’t have enough time for that kind of inconsistency.

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Now don’t get it twisted. I don’t want women who are reading this article to think that all men like the chase. Some men don’t like the chase at all. You have some guys that don’t want to have to wait three days to call you and don’t want to take you out on like 4 or 5 dates before they have sex with you. There is nothing wrong with these types of guys they are just different and like different things. Don’t ever make the mistake of thinking that if a guy is willing to chase you that means he is really into you and if he doesn’t want to chase you that means that he isn’t. The chase has nothing to do with if a guy really likes you. Some guys like the chase just for the chase. Some guys chase you because they are horny and just want to fuck. Some guys chase you because they feel better about your relationship in the long run because they feel like they worked hard to get you.  Some guys don’t like the chase because they just want to hit it and quit it and some guys don’t like the chase because they just want to get with a girl that they like without any games involved. It all depends on the situation and the guy.

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Mr. Locario

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